Gender Equality!!!

Last week on 5th April, 2016, I happened to visit for some work at SBI bank branch, it's an all women branch. I saw a boy client in twenties standing in que waiting for his turn, a security guard while crossing the que asked him for side and said "tu katcha pa ke hi aa gaya" means "u ve come in brief". The guy was wearing knee long capry..he objected and said u ve no right to abuse and i m Australia return no body objects there...he went to manager (ofcourse female in all women branch) and said same thing to manager and to my surprise manager said " beta woh Australia hein yeh india hein". The guy on hearing this requested for account closure form. I came out having few questions in my mind:

1. Had there been a girl with mini skirt or same length knee long capry in branch, the security guard would ve dare to pass remark like this?

2. Female manager would ve laughed same way, in case it happens to be girl complainant?

3. Knee long shorts of boys is obsecene?

4. Do "my choice" applicable only to women...men don't ve choice?

5. Closing the account was only option that guy left with, is there any law for men under which he can make complaint against security guard and manager for publicly abusing him?

Unturned Turn

Last weekend, I got one call......rather I should say opportunity called at my doorstep. It is one of the opportunity people wait for, I knew I will get such call one day, but I think it came bit early. Obviously it was professional oportunity...and almost all my friends/family voted for "accept".

But I refused, because somehow I felt this opportunity is just "mayajaal" of mumbai which will make me live in mumbai for forever....and I do not want that to happen. I need this opportunity but not at such cost. I will again try for such opportunity but in North India.

This is not the first time I have refused any opportunity, till now I have refused many opportunities. However I grabbed many opportunities which matched my criteria but this is first time I refused such opportunity and I know it would have definitely given good turn to my life. So just wanted to make a note of this so I can remember of this turn which I refused to take. I never had any repent for any of my professional decisions till date and I know I will not have any repent for this one either. So its just a note....

The Final, fucking word is "take care"

For the past two days...India is under attack.....blasts have been taking place like anything. Thanks to weekend, I was having nothing to do but to think about this.....otherwise on working days, probably I would not be knowing even if blast took place in the building where I live.

Indian people have very poor memory....everytime blast happen, people remember for few days and then forget, well I strongly believe short term memory is boon for individual in personal life...since I am cursed and do not forget things easily, I know life becomes difficult at times when you don't forget thing easily....well thats a separate debatable issue. Anywayz, I think its high time, India should learn and place the infrastructure in place to fight against such attack and not only goverment, I think its the right time for goverment employee to think about their role and work....till now, especially the previous generation or the current generation near to retirement have very bad attitude towards work....they just concern about salary at end....occasionally they do any work....I think, India's private sector is ready to take on world, but the one thing they need is proper thrust/infrastructre from goverment to rule. So public sector shoud ready to work and should become competitive like Pvt sector. We develop technology to make life easy, but same technology is being used by few for distruction and now goverment should actively use the technology for protection also.
With all respect to our current PM Mr.Singh....I think he has done fantastic job as PM, as an economist....but India now need some one who can take tough decisions and should have aggression to take india to next level...some one who has "zidd" to succeed. Rahul Gandhi...impressed as a person, atleast one good thing about these young people...Rahul/Sachin Pilot....they have decency and potential to become role model for common people, not like our current set of politicians who has no limit of corruption......I was very happy when UPA won, not purely bcoz I was supporting Nuclear deal, of course I am supporting it....but I was more happy that person like Mayawati is out of race for PM candidate...Its not becoz of her cast/creed, but becuase for me anybody who is going to be PM of my country, should have high respect and decency, Mayawati many time used such a bad language, which even criminal may not use for each other. Anyway, some how I feel....the young people like Rahul/Sachin are also becoming typical politician...thinking mostly about their future in politics or probably they have pressure to match up to the legacy of their families.... What we need is some one who is self less and can make tough decision for our country. We need more employment....we need to reduce the gap between rich n poor.....we need to make our internal security/police high tech.....we need to give strong signal to other countries, that India will not tolerate such attack again....and we need decent politics which is not about power and making profit, but should have will to take country to next level.

I am not writting this because Metro cities are under attack and I am living in a metro city, and I am afraid of such attacks or death. I have no reason to be afraid of death, however I do care and concerned about my loved ones, my country and our people. Anywayz till the time, we find such will power or person who makes our country secure, I want to say this to all..............well I hate this word, because people say this, get rid of their responsibility and leave without bothering any further, but I had to say this....and the final, fucking word is"TAKE CARE!!!".

Discovering Inner Self: A Journey from "INFP" to "ISTJ".

I think last blog was too lengthy and I had to take this, much needed time off or I can say you can not have unforgettable experince daily. Anywayz this week, thanks to my current organization, I gone through a communication training, which was more related to MBTI test and spent full day discussing/proving the out come of that test. It was good day, so thought of putting it under unforgettable experinces. No I am not going to discuss what and how test was conducted, actually this training/test make you discover about ur own personality...well person like me who is an "I" type, does it more often, but this day made me realize about the other types existing around us.

A little about MBTI first. MBTI stands for Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, it is a kind of personality test, which judges the personality rather I should say the "type" of person on the bases of following four dichotomies:

1. Where you get energy from?

2. How you take information?

3. How you make decision?

4. How your orient to outer world "way of life"?

I took this test twice actually, obviously not at the training, but after the training, I had tool with me so I gone through it again. Now any person of type "T" will think "why he had to take same test twice, may be he is low confident person and do not trust easily". So just to make things clear, I have taken this test second time, with the same mind set which I used to have when I just passed out from the college and entered into the professional life. I remember our trainer mentioning, as per the study of Myers-Briggs (who devised this tool), "type" of person rairely change after 14 yrs of age (by what time people normally acquire their actual type). After that person can lear behaviour of other types and come close to them, and in few cases they just change their preference for one or two out of four aspects of type indicator . But as always, I found my self dfying this theory. I took my second test and found except "I" rest everything else has changed in me and that too with in past 3-4 years. I was "INFP" and now I am proven case of "ISTJ"

Lets start with second dichotomy, about "information". When I was in college or before that, I was very much imaginative. It seems "Imagining/ Day dreaming" was my favourite time pass. Working on the basis of my intituion, imaginative thinking of new Ideas was way of life. I remeber designing the unusal blueprint for my Dad's shop and even its visiting cards...totally unorthodox design. Not very long time back, probably 5 year back I remember, I was given task to decide color for our new Home, and the color which I decided was rejected outrightly by experts, but I was very sure and when I got my drawing room painted with same colors, my Dad liked it so much, he decided to go with it for whole house. I was certainly of Type "N"...but here I am today declared and proved type of "S". Yes, now no more imagination, go by facts and tangible senses.

Another aspect of type was, how you make your decisions??? "F": Using your heart/feelings OR "T": Using your head/thinking??. Like a normal small city family guy, I used to be very emotional, most of the decisions were taken by heart and by what I feel is right...not only just my own feeling, I used to put my self in other's shoes and used to think how that person will feel, and considering that I used to make my most of decisions. But thanks to the metro life style and their people, they have played and crushed my feelings so much and so hard, I think there is hardly any feeling left for others. Now whatever feelings are there, they are just related to me...(I don't consider my "family" separate from me, so "me" include them as well).I give damn to other's feeling now, I never thouhght I will be so tough and heartless. I used to pretend heartless when I was in teaching profession, I used to take tough decision without considering feelings because I knew whatever decision I am making, its good for the future of the student, but I used to feel bad, low on mood after taking such decisions. But I think such decision make no affect on me. Recently I took one such decision, which I know, I would not have taken had I been the same old person. But here I am, I am no more the same person, felt bad for few days after taking that decision, not becuase of feeling of that other person, but because of my own feeling/thinking about myself. Initially felt bad about my self, because I found my self like the same carreer oriented persons with no feelings for others and whom I always hated, but some reasoning and explanation to myself helped me to get out of that. So here is "T" type person thinking perfectly fine from mind, hearts job is to feel so let him feel, but decision making is part of mind's job, so let him do that without any intervention of heart.

Now, about the type which decide the "way of life". It can be "P" or "J". "J" meant to be the organized and structured way of living and "P" meant to be live life as it comes. I remember I used to be perfect "P", my friend used to say "Lala the great always late".....never follow the schedule....do whatever whenever you want to do. I remember Dad used to say " What will this guy do in life???....when people start coming home, he leaves home" and "why on earth he comes with list of pending works at last minute??". Not only dad, I remember in my very first organization, my PL used to be very sure, he will miss his deadline/call. Typical sympotms of being a "P". But here is the latest version, too organized and disciplined, a typical case of "J". sometime I think I have become machine, which does each and every work daily at same, (ofcourse work does not include going to loo and that kind of stuff ;)). Not only just "time" another things are also kind of fixed, like what and how much to eat etc...sometime I noticed steward at cafe remember, what I am going to order and sometime i noticed receptionist at GYM saying "you ve got late today", like she was waiting for me ;)...But I still think, I become typical case of "P" when I go to my home town and I am with my family. Probably becuase I know lot of people are there for taking care of me...and I will get all works done even if I tell them at last minute of time.

All said and discussed, one thing which have not changed in me is "I" in me. I am still "I". This means I am still introvert...does not mean I do not speak to people at all, but It means I do not need energy from external people and I gain energy/thoughts from my inner-self. I think this type "I" was and is very perfect fit for me. I always said I do not need anybody in this world to succeed, me myself can do things on my own. Again like to clarify, "me" or "I" include my family, without them "me" is nothing. Friend used to be part of this "me", then I realized friends come and go as per their convenience and they may also choose not to come with you for achieving your goal, but your family will be always there for you (probably they do not have better choice), so I decided to keep friends out of this. I like to be alone, watching TV, writting Blog like this. I definitely do not need crowd of people around me....thinking I may need them in future or just to show how many contacts I have. But yes I have very few friends, they are few but like diamond...only choosen ones. They have not been choosen with the intention that I may need them in life, they are there because they have thinking like me, they are there because there should be some people who can share happiness of success and lows of failure with each other.

Anywayz it would be wrong if "I" take all the credit for discovering my own type, I should "thank" the trainer, who helped quite a lot for detecting and understanding these types. I think I will be taking this test again after 3-4 years to check where I am heading to...For now, I think "I" is very happy, after discovering about inner-self, spending so much time alone and writting this blog. Now, "I" have gained enough energy to go out and face the "E"xternal world...Let me go get some other unforgettable experience from the outer world...will be back again...till then bbye and take your care yourself...and if possible try n discover your type.

My first ever...

Its been long, I was thinking of writting blog about memorable moments/experiences of life...but as always kept on delaying it. Anywayz better late than never...and what a start, thought of writting my first ever blog on my first ever experience of watching live cricket match in the ground. There is another first ever...yes, this was the first ever IPL (Indian Premier League) tournament being played. Lets start with first thing first...as in all the important moments, date plays an important role, It was 20th April and Mumbai Indians were suppose to play there first ever (another first ever :)) match in the tournament against "the Banglore"...oh I mean "the Bengaluru Royal Challengers" (no it was not there first, but second match, they were ruined by Calcutta Knight Riders in their first and inaugural match of the tournament).We (me and my 2 colleagues, one of them really crazy about cricket) planned for this one as time pass activity during weekend, as Mr. Krazzy's wife has relieved him from the painful job of being a hubby for 1 month and left for her home city....Its really difficult for a married man to pass their weekend alone at home...we bachelors are used to it. Mr Krazzy got this idea very late, so I was assigned duty to arrange tickets, and which I managed to do. On Sunday, we took help of indian railway to reach till JJ hospital, no not because I was going to get admit there, or niether I was there to see the class room, where Munnabhai MBBS was shot. But to collect the ticket from my cousin, who is doing MBBS there. Though it was not at all good experince to see JJ hospital....never expected the place, which has produced and still producing the finest doctors in India, to be full of garbadge and totally unhygienic. Don't want to talk about this now....probably will write about this in some other blog later. Hmm... I think I forgot to thank my cousin, the person who made this moment to come in our lives, anywayz let me thank him now. A Big Thanks Nonu!!!! (now atleast I will made one person to read this blog ;)).

After collecting tickets, we took our old Royal Fiat cab, and I think we just crossed the revolving resturant at churchgate and were about to catch Marine Drive road, when suddenly a Red light stopped us, we were eagerly waiting to reach ground, though we were two n half hour advance.All of us were eager to be there, because it was first ever for all of us, and we never been to live match like this before. But I think there was more for us in store, as when we were waiting for green signal, I suddenly saw a police gypsy coming with hooter on, and guess what....it was followed by a luxury bus written "Mumbai Indians....Duniya Hila dengey"...yes it was the bus having all the STARS of "the Mumbai Indian" team....the team we were supporting...and why not....this is the team headed by Cricket God SACHIN RAMESH TENDULKAR. Bus stopped for a moment as it was red light, but being VIP bus, they were given safe passage even on RED light. But we all were more excited just seeing the bus of our favourite team....and do not know why whenever I am on Marine Drive, I feel great and happy....may be it makes me feel I m in the real mumbai which I had seen in the movies...or probably it reminds me of the Hussain Sagar lake @ hyderabad....or may be I am just fascinated with beauty of Arbian Sea, whatever it was, it just added to my mood . Another thing which might have boosted my mood was probably that I was feeling quite light, because I was not carrying my mobile....a permanent running deamon process, which makes everyone check for missed call, was disabled for that moment. It was difficult when we first decided not to carry mobile with us, as it was printed on the ticket back that mobile phone will not be allowed due to security reasons.....and we like good citizen followed the rule and kept our mobile in my cousin's locker. Initially deamon process caused a problem, every five min hand was going to pocket in search of mobile, but slowly in the excitement of game, mind just forgot abt this.

Anywayz, I felt bit disappointed when I saw police men are not at all bother about the mobile or even about the security. Because I was carrying steel made key ring, and no police men bothered to check what I am carrying, it may be anything rt??....but lets leave it here...seeing so much crowd, it wasn't possible to check each & everyone's pocket. As soon as, we enetered the gate after security checks, we were received by CITI girl, though she did not seems to be impressed with my looks...she did not catch me who was leading...rather choose my friend Mr. Krazzy, who was following me and asked him whether he has any citi bank card....we replied No with bad face...then she asked simple question "which are the 2 teams who won their matches yesterday?".....to my surprise Mr krazzy forgot the second team's name....then I jumped in for his resecue...and we both were equally rewarded with free white colored T shirt having CITI logo on it. Seems like she was there for just ditributing it, and all that quiz was just a formality, bcoz our 3rd partner Mr. Shayar got it without any effort. We were just discussing, how desperately we need such T-Shirts for our gym regime....and we found ourselves in the stadium...in middle of crowd...or as our Mr. Shayar exclaimed...we were surrounded by the real mumbai babes....we saw some of real mumbai beauties on our stand....oh did I mention stand name...it was "Sachin Tendulkar Stand". I think this would have been one of those rare occassion where I reached before scheduled time. Yes, we reached 2 good hours before the match time. But I do not remember how these 2 hrs passed....i think one of the fastest 2 hrs 0f life. Bangloru team (dressed in ugly orange red) was there on ground practicing....and we saw Venkatesh Prasad, balling coach of B'lore, having look at pitch......and then we saw 2 Australian players (sorry still could not figure out who those two were) dressed in same ugly orangish red running on the ground....to my surprise these were the only 2 who were running and warming up....they completed around 5-6 circles, none of other player completed even a single circle. I was thinking these two might be having gr8 stemina....since they may have to play a match after this....but later i realized they were walking outside boundary even while the match was being played.....they were actually non playing team members form B'nglr. We saw Mumbai Indian warming up in a unique way by throwing ball randomly to each other....and after that they were parcticing their skills...bowler were trying to hit stump and where as batsmen were doing net practice.....it was gr8 to watch our heroes practicing in the white flood lights, since it was day night match they started swithcing on flood lights slowly one by one. I must say wankhade is not very Big ground, people can be recognized if you have seen them on TV earlier and remember their posture n texture.......well one man who was easily recognizable... was non other than "man from JALANDHAR" Harbhajan Singh...bhajji as people call him. Anywayz thats not it....apart from that we had jam packed crowd, chanting "Mumbai"..."Bhaji"..."Ganpatti Bappa Moriya".."Sachin"...and god knows what. But we were also taking part in it....and crying out with crowd. There were some foolish people also, booing Australian players who were warming up.....couple of people are enough to destroy the reputation of Country.....but its not their fault, probably this is what they have been tought by their parents. There were few others including girls, probably just passed out of school, they were just seems to be like professional chain smoker.......as always...it disturbed me, I could not understand why people smoke.....and even if they smoke, what make them to be chain smoker....I tried smoking/boozing probably in my lows...but I think I was still strong enough to resist and could never touch cigrate to my lips. Anywa I think that was not rt time to give them lecture on this.....but i was not either in the mood of passive smoking....so I asked them not to smoke..... but like true kids, they kept on smoking keeping their heads down. Well apart from this....people were busy in guessing who is practicing in the net or at wickets. Just seeing MRF bat ppl guessed its none other than the Cricketing God S.R Tendulkar himself......just seeing him in nets, people started chanting his name.....and everyone started expecting that he will play & lead Mumbai Indians....but sachin choosed to stay out of game due to injury and handed over captancy to Bhajji. So I got another reason to support Mumbai Indians...." a man from Jalandhar...supporting sardar from jalandhar".....thats the caption and one more " I m supporting winning team and cricket"....thats what I thought for my banner to attract TV camera, so my Mom Dad can see me.......and I carried marker also....but to my bad luck, I could not find white paper there. But still there were some intelligent people who carried white paper with them....one of them had written very good caption "Mom says watch cricket not Girls :)"....and there were few people who forgot its not international match and they were carrying India Flag....but anyway it was nice to see our Try-Color flying there...just loved it.

Before the match could start, there was a couple of performances by the Mumbai Indian's Desi Cheer leaders. "Cheer leaders" is the new concept introduced in the T20 torunaments and thanks Vijay Malya who paid crores of rupees to hire a dozen of Playboy babes to be cheer leader of the B'lore team . We were lucky to have opponent in B'lore team, so we could see these million dollar babes performing just in front of us :))......Thanks to some hittings, DJ music and Punjabi dhol which kept these babes in action. There were another ceremony, being first match for Mumbai INdian in this IPL tournament, Mr. Ambani came to cheer up his team..I will say this line in hindi "unhoney apni team ko topi bhi pehnayee" :) and lot of fire work was there to mark the begining of tournament in Mumbai...Well there was another surprise, Tashan (movie) team, which was supporting Mumbai Indians were there on the ground.....Anil Kapoor, who was having mic and charging up crowd by "ganpati bappa morya"....Karina Kapoor, who was looking slim and sexy..... and chottey Nawab Saif with his son took round of the ground.
And then appeared the two captains "indian wall" Rahul Dravid & Bhajji alongwith the umpires for the toss and Bhajji won the toss and elected to bat....but I never saw people booing Rahul Dravid, atleast never expected people will do this to batsman like Rahul Dravid in his home country INDIA and same people will cheer up Jaysurya....even Jaysurya might not have expected this that he will get such response,hmm...what to say...this is all IPL affect. Then started the great grand IPL match, whole ground was shouting in rythm "mumbai"....Ronchi & Jaysurya came for opening...jaysurya played few good shots before getting run out...and then another player Domnick soon had to retire hurt becoz of bouncer from Zaheer Khan. But match was full on...being a 20-20 match lot of firing and shots were there...and People were standing shouting and clapping, every time a boundary or long shot was hit, so we had good exercise, I think we might have burnt as much calories as we normally burn in the GYM....Thanks to Uthappa and Pollock...mumbai Indian put 165 runs on the board...It was not a gr8 or competitive score....but I think we had already received full value of our money....so just wanted to see what mumbai Indians have in store for the opponent in their home ground.Before second half could start...I jumped out of stadium to grab some pepsi...but pepsi counter was as packed as stadium was...so it was a kind of fight which I had to fight and win....some how managed to get it. By the time we reached back to stadium, players were back on field. Rahul Dravid and Chanderpaul opened from b'lore side and Dravid was really playing good, infact he hit 2 continous six on before harbhajan caught n bowled him in the same over...During the match suddenly I heard huge shout in stadium and started looking here and there....and I found TV Screen in gorund was displaying Sexy Katrina Kaif's face from B'lore team's camp...As an brand ambassador of B'lore team, she was there to cheer up his team. Well I missed watching couple of shots bcoz of Katrina and few becoz of these cheer girls...not bcoz I was really attracted by these foreigners, but bcoz I wanted to see what steps do they perform on Punjabi beats. Well its debatable issue now, whether these cheer leader should be there in IPL or not...but I personally think, it is really damaging cricket and our culture....I really liked the suggestion given by some one on one of the News Channel, I m putting in quote "if at all we want to have cheer leader for real purpose of cheering their team and crowd, we should have our local cheer leaders in our traditional dress and performing traditional dance steps...like mumbai indian doing konkini and Punjabi doing giddha and bahngra". As I mentioned this is debatable...so lets not get in to debate here and concentrate on our match. There was some fantastic bawling and fielding as well by Pollock. I really liked his attitude, he was fielding at long on near to our stand and keep showing his cap and waving hand to the crowd, which made crowd to chant his name. Match had become really interseted in the later half of the 20 overs, before one bad over (18th) bowled by Mr. Nehra...which really took match away from Mumbai Indians. But I really liked the fighting spirit of our Sardar. d. He is really a fast learner. He really showed true punjabi character and did not loose confidence till last over. He kept on going to bawler after each ball and discussed the field. But B'lore team managed to finish with 2 balls still remaining.

Anywayz it was good match all n all. Crowd already started leaving specially those with their Girl Friend....we like as always followed them. I think we did not come out, but rather pushed out ofstadium...it was like supply belt. It was already 12 in night and We could not find any Taxi there and kept on walking with crowd till we got one cab. Thanks to bollywood "1 challis ki last local" we knew it is not that late and we can still catch train. We took cab to JJ hospital and picked our mobiles from hostel and then we went to Byculla Station where we had typical mumbaiya dinner "Wadda paw"...cheap and really tasty...Infact I had another one after getting down at vikhroli station.

What a experince it was...this is what we call "a day", I was satisfied. I could not sleep properly after coming back and was all excited. Don't tell anyone, but I could not work at office also next day, not because I was not able to come out of this roller coaster ride...no not even becoz I was thinking what to write in this blog, but bcoz my back was really giving me hard time...all those jumps and shouts on almost every shot gave me tough time. Like normal kid I was really missinng...ok lets not close this Blog in emotional mode :)

Oh my god...how many lines I have written...just wondering, if I could have written this much in my graduation english essay question, I would not have been 50% scorer in English :)...Anywayz, consdering this as my first blog, Guys (and girls--if any) don't try to find mistake in this one. Just appreciate the effort I put in writting this one ;)....Hope I will write few more, as and when I feel like, till then...enjoy ur time!!!